Despite the dawning of women’s lib and the emergence of gay marriages the making of the marriage proposal is still largely the job of a man. In fact, millions of women all over the world have missed out on spending the rest of their lives with their soul mates just because they waited for the men to pop the question or pop it the right way.
Here are a few rules to follow when asking what may be the most important question in your life.
Rule No. 1: Ask only when you’re 99% sure of the answer. Contrary to what many men would think, not all women are pining for married life, and some of them are also playing the field. Just because you’re dating exclusively doesn’t mean you’re “the one.”
How can you be almost sure? If you have never discussed the matter in the past, if she has never mentioned babies or scenarios of the two of you in the future tense, then postpone the intention until you get more hints.
Rule No. 2: Show your creativity. A marriage proposal is something women want to talk about with their friends long after it has happened. Nobody wants to tell about the tired story of the waiter at the restaurant handing you the bill and the ring box, or – horrors! Proposing marriage through text.
Surf the Internet for inspiration. You’ll find hundreds of heartwarming marriage proposal “ruses” that would bowl over your future fiancee. There’s the guy who connived with an artist to set up the question in 3D at an art gallery. Another guy proposed to his girlfriend, a scuba diver like him, underwater by writing the question with a waterproof pen and pad.
Still another guy composed a song, recorded it, and downloaded it to his girlfriend’s MP3 player. The possibilities are endless, and there’s a great idea to suit every budget.
If you have money to spend, you can even whisk her off to an extremely romantic place to up your chances of getting a favorable answer. It could be a place that’s special to you both or a country she’s always dreamed of visiting.
One foolproof technique is to hire the services of locals. Lots of guys have sought the help of kids because they can surely melt any woman’s heart. Close friends can also be tapped to lend support, and you can even set up an elaborate ruse with a series of planned events, from when she wakes up in the morning, culminating in the proposal at the end of the day.
Rule No. 3: The proposal must suit your girlfriend’s personality. If she’s the type who loves being the center of attention or who always involves family and friends, then by all means let them in on the secret and solicit their participation.
On the other hand, if she prefers her privacy, then perhaps the giant billboard technique or flashing your proposal on the jumbotron won’t do the trick.
The marriage proposal, like the wedding itself, is an important event in a woman’s life. This is why careful preparation is needed to make it truly memorable and successful.